MoTAS Weekly for 3/4/15: Simcha Shabbat / Purim Carnival / Basketball Squares

It’s In You

Recently, I had the pleasure of attending a Shabbat service at Wilshire Blvd. Temple. During the service, Rabbi Leder talked about the Torah portion, which included a detailed description of the building of the Tabernacle. He pointed out that although one might think the Tabernacle was being built as the home for G-d, the portion was clear that it wasn’t. Rather, the notion was that G-d would reside in the Jewish people G-d would be a part of each and everyone one of us.

That’s a notion that resonated with me, and that resonance became strong when I thought of MoTAS. What makes us strong as MoTAS is not the buildings we meet in or even the specific things we do — it is the spirit within us that binds us as brother to brother. It is the relationships between men that turn into friendships, and those friendships that turn into unbreakable bonds that are essentially at the level of family. It is this connection and spirit that makes MoTAS special, and it is one of the reasons why those of use active in MoTAS love our MoTAS brothers.

We invite you to join in the bond: be part of our brotherhood of friends. Come to a membership meeting, come to one of our activities, or just come up to one of us at a Shabbat and say “Shalom”. You’re always welcome with us.

MoTAS Weekly for 2/25/15: Yom HaShoah Candle Packing / Simcha Shabbat / Purim Carnival / Basketball Squares

MoTAS Weekly for 2/18/15: Yom HaShoah Candle Packing / Mens Hangout /Basketball Squares / Mens Seder

MoTAS Weekly for 2/11/15: Mens Hangout Date Change / Appeal Reminder / Purim / Basketball Squares On Sale

MoTAS Reflection – Mike Rayfield

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I have come to learn that the Men’s Club has given me a different outlook as to how people are normally, as I have been dealing with the worse people in our society for over 24 years.
The men of MOTAS, have given me hope and friendship and I will continue to support the Men of TAS, just  as long as Steve and Scott continue cooking as I really enjoy the Sundays, Lox, Bagels, Coffee and friendship.

MoTAS Weekly for 2/4/15: February Membership Meeting, Supporting Brian, Purim Volunteers, and Much More

Demonstrating You’re There

I go to a lot of live theatre. Actors love to have a full house — even if some seats are discounted — because the energy of everyone participating makes the entire production better. I saw this effect recently from the TAS Board in relation to the end of year Tzedakah campaign: it was stressed how important it was for everyone on the Board to particpate, at whatever level they could afford, because of the message it sent. This notion stuck with me, and builds upon the theme of our recent MoTAS Shabbat: The men of TAS being role models.

When you participate in an event as a man of TAS, you send a message through your participation. You demonstrate how the Men of TAS are there for the congregation in all its activities and endeavors. Time and financial constraints may limit our abilities to participate as fully as we might like, but doing whatever we can, whenever we can, says a lot to our leadership. This is true for congregational activities, and it is equally true for MoTAS activities.

When you receive a mailing, email, or call asking you to participate, think about what your participation — or non-participation — says. More importantly, think about what your participation does: it allows you create relationships with other participants, and strengthen your bond to the congregation. Ultimately, it is that bond that keeps MoTAS and TAS strong: people caring about other people, and being there — participating — for them.

MoTAS Reflection – Brian Hatkoff

motas-shabbat-2015As part of our MoTAS Shabbat, we invited a number of men to share a reflection of what their relationship with MoTAS means to them. This is the reflection that Brian Hatkoff shared:

When Men get together, they have a great time talking about sports, politics, business, their kids and things like that.  When men get together, they DO NOT talk about what’s going on in their lives, what’s going on behind the scenes, their emotions, their relationships with their wives, their kids, their parents and so on.

I started a program a few years ago at TAS ( a program I stole from somewhere else) called the Men’s Only discussion group, which is now called the Men’s Hangout.  It was designed to be in a setting of support for each other during good times and bad.  A chance to expose their feelings (if they wanted to) and ask for advice or just vent.  I had no idea where it would go.  It was set in a safe environment and where any discussion that occurred stayed in those four walls.

I really didn’t expect much, except talking about sports, politics, business, their kids…  Not much happened, except for the openness of the conversation of our personal feelings and what was truly going on in our lives.

Although I moderated it for the first few years, I got so much out of it that I ended up with a whole new respect for the men around me.  I came to appreciate that what I may have been going through at the time, and thought I was alone,  and the only one in that situation, that other men had been there and gave me the support I needed at the time.

The ability of men to be open and honest with other is far and few between, and that needs to change.  This is a small but very important piece of what MoTAS does.  Our MoTAS is doing that and will continue to do that.